Annual Golf Tournament

Join us
Monday, June 11, 2018
at Missouri Bluffs Golf Course
to once again honor Whitley Ray Russo and support the mission of Lydia’s House.

2017 Whitley Ray-Russo Memorial Golf Tournament raised $34K for Lydia’s House! Thank you to Ashley Russo and Diana Loewe’s tremendous efforts in making this such a successful tournament! The funds raised through their efforts will be used to provide quality services for the women and children residing at Lydia’s House.

For more information,check out the Tournament Brochure!

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Helping The Helpers

For nearly 23 years Lydia’s House has helped women and children move out of abusive relationships and into safety and self reliance. They have inspired countless numbers of women to invest in themselves and countless numbers of organizations to invest in the mission.

Many wonderful organizations, seeing the good work Lydia’s House does, are inspired to help them help others. Organizations aid Lydia’s House by organizing donations, food and clothing drives, auctions, etc.  But equally important, they lend their reputation and membership to the cause of Lydia’s House. They increase awareness of domestic violence by committing to put their entire company’s support behind our mission.

Lydia’s House exists because sometimes people need help helping themselves but we too rely on the support and help of others. The time, talents and treasures of various groups are invaluable in aiding Lydia’s House to provide life saving assistance to women every day.

Thank you to all volunteers, groups, organizations, individuals and businesses that have shown Lydia’s House support. With you, we are able to sustain and stand strong against adversity.


A Poem for Winter

I’m a falling snowflake,
so tiny and so small.

I don’t seem to matter,
but to those who see me fall.

Some say we all just look alike
and groups us all as snow,

And some will see we change.
the farther on we go.

We’re hurried with the wind,
and brushed aside by some,

While others stop to see
the wonderment we’ve done.

And all too soon our journey,
it comes to an end,

But we’ve touched along the way,
loved ones, foes and friends.

I’ve seen tears and I’ve seen smiles,
heard laughter and heard pain,

And though not many noticed me,
I was there, just the same.

So when next you see a snowflake,
take time to look and smile,

Remember, each one of us a miracle,
each one of us worthwhile.

I could be an autumn breeze
or bird against the sky

But, I am just a snowflake,
… Or am I?

Written by a Former Resident of Lydia’s House

Veteran’s Day

This past week we celebrated Veteran’s Day, a day to remember and appreciate all of the veterans who have served the United States in any branch of the military.  Even though there are over 20 million veterans currently living in the United States, for the most part the veterans are quietly going about living their daily lives.  Periodically veterans will become the focus in the media as we remember the anniversary of an historic battle or as concerns are raised about the availability of quality healthcare for veterans.

In recent years there has also been more emphasis on veterans and the effects of PTSD.  PTSD, or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, can occur after experiencing a traumatic event.  It is not hard to imagine that veterans would experience PTSD, especially those who had combat experience.  As we gain more understanding about PTSD and its effects, hopefully more veterans will be able to receive the help they need and deserve.

One of the things we have learned in the domestic violence field is that survivors of domestic violence may also be diagnosed with PTSD.  It is sad to think that women and children may be living in situations bad enough to cause PTSD, but perhaps we should not be surprised because survivors have compared the violence in a relationship to a “battlefield”.  The ways in which domestic violence is carried out by one partner against another are horrific, demeaning and frightening, making a battlefield out of a home that could be safe and loving.

Like our veterans, we hope that domestic violence survivors will also have access to the help and support they need to understand and live with PTSD.  And in this season of gratitude we give thanks for everyone working to make sure that veterans, domestic violence survivors and others have access to the support and services they need to not only live with PTSD, but to live lives that are rich and full.


Domestic Violence Awareness Month

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  This year we’ve been seeing and hearing a lot about domestic violence in the media because of what started with Ray Rice and the NFL.  I think it’s good to get this issue out in the open so that we can talk about it, because as one survivor said, “Silence is a killer”.  At the same time, these conversations should have been taking place long before now, and they have been, but on a much smaller scale.  What we know is that domestic violence is a global issue that impacts people every day.  “On average, nearly 20 people per minute are victims of physical violence by an intimate partner in the United States.”  And “1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have experienced [some form of] physical violence by an intimate partner within their lifetime.”  The National Coalition against Domestic Violence says that, “Domestic violence is an epidemic affecting individuals in every community, regardless of age, economic status, sexual orientation, gender, race, religion, or nationality.”

In light of these statistics and facts, I think we can agree that domestic violence is a communal issue that deserves our attention.  And my experience is that businesses and churches and individuals are committed to supporting organizations such as Lydia’s House with their donations and financial support and even their time as they attend fundraising events or volunteer.  These are all very important ways in which we can raise awareness of domestic violence and support the organizations that are helping individuals after they have experienced violence in their homes.

What we cannot forget is that even as we continue to support places such as Lydia’s House, even as we hear in the media the horrible truth of domestic violence, more women and children are being abused every day.  These women and children are living in our neighborhoods, attending our schools and churches, shopping in the same grocery stores, and riding in the same Metrolink car.  During any given day we may cross paths with women who are being abused without even knowing it.  And so we will continue to raise awareness of domestic violence, supporting the survivors who have escaped the abuse, and spreading the message that no one deserves to be abused.